The adventures of a butch dyke in my 40's as I get knocked up, give birth, move cross country and back and discover that FTM also stands for Full Time Mom
Tuesday, January 22
Fab
This picture is proof that you can take the boy out of san francisco, but you can't take san francisco out of the boy.
We had a very good trip. We saw lots of friends, and family and got to visit many of SF's best playgrounds in between business and social engagements. One highlight of the trip (for the moms) was a walking tour of Ano Nuevo Elephant Seal preserve where we were joined by R's Grandpa Eldon, as well as the Wyman-Bennett clan (pictures to follow). A highlight for the boy was an afternoon spent at the discovery museum in Marin with Mel, Rachel-Laura & Jasper.
Monday, January 21
Wednesday, January 16
Enjoying a day at the Embarcadero
Tuesday, January 15
Four Generations
Here we are for a minute visiting the little guys "great-great grandfather" after our outing to Ano Nuevo with Grandpa R. At the end of the trip the little monkey was looking at pictures of Grandpa R. and saying "Poppa" - I was so happy that he got to spend enough time that he was recognizing him and that we will get to see him again this spring when he comes out to Boston. On a sadder note I am pretty sure that my Grandfather didn't recognize me at all - although he did seem to get that the baby was his great-grandson.
Monday, January 7
What a difference a month makes
Note the little monkey on the path to the park in November - wearing sweatpants and a jean jacket, but by mid-December things have changed on the same little path. Now (early Jan) the path just has a few remnants of ice on it which should be melted by tomorrow - esp. if its really going to be close to 60 degrees.
Sunday...
Unka Richie
Richie came down from NYC to visit us (FINALLY) and we got him & his camera out to Jamaica Pond where he & the lil monster went chasing ducks. Much, much fun was had by all & I think Rich took about 3 rolls of film. The funniest part of the weekend was hearing peals of laughter from the back room as monito and R. were back there bonding.
Friday, January 4
It is cold here....
After bitter cold, Bay State to get a taste of spring
January 4, 2008 08:37 AM
By Globe Staff
Sick and tired of the bitter cold? Warmth is on the way. The National Weather Service predicts that temperatures will rise steadily through next Tuesday, when it will reach the 50s.
The cold will linger this morning, with temperatures of minus 5 in the interior of the state to 15 degrees. But the temperatures will then move upward, beginning with a high of about 33 today, the weather service predicts.
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I live in a state where 33 Degrees is considered good weather in the winter. San Fran on the other hand is getting hit with a huge rain storm but the temps are positivly balmy up there in the 50's.
So I don't usually blog about the weather, but yesterday was the type of morning where you actually think your nose may turn black and fall off and your lungs burn as you breath. Little mountain man went out for a walk with me & fell asleep in his stroller!!!
January 4, 2008 08:37 AM
By Globe Staff
Sick and tired of the bitter cold? Warmth is on the way. The National Weather Service predicts that temperatures will rise steadily through next Tuesday, when it will reach the 50s.
The cold will linger this morning, with temperatures of minus 5 in the interior of the state to 15 degrees. But the temperatures will then move upward, beginning with a high of about 33 today, the weather service predicts.
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I live in a state where 33 Degrees is considered good weather in the winter. San Fran on the other hand is getting hit with a huge rain storm but the temps are positivly balmy up there in the 50's.
So I don't usually blog about the weather, but yesterday was the type of morning where you actually think your nose may turn black and fall off and your lungs burn as you breath. Little mountain man went out for a walk with me & fell asleep in his stroller!!!
Wednesday, January 2
Sunday, December 30
Friday, December 21
Thursday, December 20
Streets of Cambridge
Tuesday, December 18
For Rina C.
Okay so remember that day when I called you and I said I thought I was probably a bad mom 'cause all I was giving my kid for dinner was Ramen soup and some cheese slices & you called back and said that it didn't matter and at least I was feeding him -(or something like that). Well, here is the photo of that day. & looking at it I figure you're right - he looks like he couldn't be happier.
Snow Play
AFTER OUR FIRST BIG DECEMBER SNOWFALL THE LIL MONKEY DISCOVERED HOW MUCH FUN PEOPLES TRASH COULD BE. HE SPENT 20 MINUTES PLAYING IN SOME RECYCLED PAPER ON THE STREET ACROSS FROM OUR BUDDIES HOUSE. FINALLY I PULLED HIM AWAY (CRYING).
AFTER THE SECOND BIG SNOW WE WENT TO THE FIELD BEHIND OUR HOUSE FOR SOME SNOW-HIPSTER MAKING WITH THAT SAME BUDDIES FOLKS - MUCH FUN WAS HAD BY ALL.
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Monday, December 17
Baby Has Two Mommies
I didn't blog about this earlier cause I was saving it for a Channukah surprise for Em's family - but as of November 27 the Lil' Monkey Officialy and Legally has two mommies. Yup - Our adoption was finalized!!!!
Honestly Em & I have had mixed feelings about the whole process cause it's kinda wierd to have to adopt your own kid, and its also a pretty big financial burden that's placed on queer same-gendered families that is not placed on the "normal" world blah blah blah... and I was also a little sad to be doing this on the East Coast instead of at home in SF where at least we would have lots of other queer mama friends to throw up a big you adopted your own baby tea party for us.
But the good thing is its Done & he is protected if anything happens to me & Em's family & extended family are all legally his family & extended family now & all that is GOOD.

Honestly Em & I have had mixed feelings about the whole process cause it's kinda wierd to have to adopt your own kid, and its also a pretty big financial burden that's placed on queer same-gendered families that is not placed on the "normal" world blah blah blah... and I was also a little sad to be doing this on the East Coast instead of at home in SF where at least we would have lots of other queer mama friends to throw up a big you adopted your own baby tea party for us.
But the good thing is its Done & he is protected if anything happens to me & Em's family & extended family are all legally his family & extended family now & all that is GOOD.
Friday, December 14
Tuesday, December 4
18 Month Check Up
Sunday, November 18
Mid November Post
So if you are paying attention you'd be thinking to yourself - Hey What's up?? The lil' Monkey hit his 18 Month Anniversary & I haven't seen any numbers - no height, no weight, no cute little head circumference. Well, that's my fault - I let a few weeks go by after our last Dr. appt before I called to schedule the 18 month check up & by that time the entire month of November was gone & we got slotted for early December. So if you all just wait patient then you'll get those numbers just as soon as we do. What I can tell you is that the lil guy is just smart as a whip. He is so much fun & also funny - whether its hitting Em on the head with a board book when he should be napping or reaching through the slats of my chair cackling "Tickle, tickle, tickle".
He has also tossed out his old habit of bobbing forward and nodding "Yes" to everything we say in favor of testing the power of his "NO!!!" and getting some practice in the fit-throwing department. He is a little bit of a bully sometimes commandeering a favorite toy and giving a push or shove to keep ahold of it, but all in all compared with the other 18 month-ers he is pretty chill. He can still be distracted and his fits when he has them are short-lived bursts.
He is still super active and getting more agile. He enjoys the "circuit" in our park which consists of a two step climb to a platform, another couple of steps to another platform then sitting & scooching on his toosh to the edge of the slide and sliding down WHEEEEE. He also likes the suspended bridge bouncy thing as well as going up the BIG ladder (probably about 8 steps) and sliding down the covered slide - which does Really Fun things to his hair - crazy static electricity.
He is showing a small bit of the OCD - he takes all the push toys in the park and lines them up or parks them in order under the table or under the slide. He also likes to clean (????) - Em and I have no idea where this trait comes from. He will take a cloth or sponge and wipe off the dirty place-mat after he eats, he takes the broom or mop and tries to clean the kitchen floor - sadly he doesn't love the vacumn (I blame this on Mabel since she has a habit of barking at it.) He has even begun to follow a big person (ie Me) into the loo so that he can pull all the toilet paper off of the roll & then sweetly offer it up to you as he says in baby voice " pp ??? poo poo?? "
It is starting to get colder here so we have been discovering more indoor play spaces - sadly coffee shops are too small to contain him, but the library and the childrens museum are most accomadating. Also a few friends are hosting play groups at their houses. He is playing more with Lila - the big gal upstairs (22 months old!!) and we see our buddy Gabe almost every day. The challenge now is trying to figure out how to time the naps to the much shorter days - its dark now between 4 and 4:30 so it feels bad to sleep away the last couple hours of daylight which means I either try to get him down early (before 2) or we wait until after 4 - like today which means he's asleep at dinner time --- but will probably be wide awake & rearing to go at around 10 pm. Oh well.
I am missing Family & our SF Friends a lot right now - Happy Thanksgiving to you all & plan a trip to the East Coast for the coming year!!!!
He has also tossed out his old habit of bobbing forward and nodding "Yes" to everything we say in favor of testing the power of his "NO!!!" and getting some practice in the fit-throwing department. He is a little bit of a bully sometimes commandeering a favorite toy and giving a push or shove to keep ahold of it, but all in all compared with the other 18 month-ers he is pretty chill. He can still be distracted and his fits when he has them are short-lived bursts.
He is still super active and getting more agile. He enjoys the "circuit" in our park which consists of a two step climb to a platform, another couple of steps to another platform then sitting & scooching on his toosh to the edge of the slide and sliding down WHEEEEE. He also likes the suspended bridge bouncy thing as well as going up the BIG ladder (probably about 8 steps) and sliding down the covered slide - which does Really Fun things to his hair - crazy static electricity.
He is showing a small bit of the OCD - he takes all the push toys in the park and lines them up or parks them in order under the table or under the slide. He also likes to clean (????) - Em and I have no idea where this trait comes from. He will take a cloth or sponge and wipe off the dirty place-mat after he eats, he takes the broom or mop and tries to clean the kitchen floor - sadly he doesn't love the vacumn (I blame this on Mabel since she has a habit of barking at it.) He has even begun to follow a big person (ie Me) into the loo so that he can pull all the toilet paper off of the roll & then sweetly offer it up to you as he says in baby voice " pp ??? poo poo?? "
It is starting to get colder here so we have been discovering more indoor play spaces - sadly coffee shops are too small to contain him, but the library and the childrens museum are most accomadating. Also a few friends are hosting play groups at their houses. He is playing more with Lila - the big gal upstairs (22 months old!!) and we see our buddy Gabe almost every day. The challenge now is trying to figure out how to time the naps to the much shorter days - its dark now between 4 and 4:30 so it feels bad to sleep away the last couple hours of daylight which means I either try to get him down early (before 2) or we wait until after 4 - like today which means he's asleep at dinner time --- but will probably be wide awake & rearing to go at around 10 pm. Oh well.
I am missing Family & our SF Friends a lot right now - Happy Thanksgiving to you all & plan a trip to the East Coast for the coming year!!!!
Tuesday, November 13
Fall Walk with Mommy & Grandma
We had another weekend up in the shire with Phancy. The lil' monkey loves his house in the woods, he was playing with all the toys for hours entertaining himself and loving long walks up the leaf covered driveway with Grandma, Grandpa and Mommy. I loved the time away too - I read almost the ENTIRE Sunday NY Times for the first time in I don't know how long. Yummm....Now its back to a week of real life & then the grandparents are in Boston for a wedding over the weekend so more N. family time.
Wednesday, November 7
Monday, November 5
Fall at the Shire

We went out to the shire this weekend to visit the GParents... & got a really cute shot of the lil monkey in his fancy Patagonia vest playing in the fallen leaves. He had a great time getting lots and lots of attention & I had a good time getting to do some soduko puzzles and lay on the couch. Mabel & Monito both enjoyed running in circles around the house & we luckily avoided a massive rainstorm that blew through Boston. All in all a good weekend & Next weekend mama Em gets to come out to play too.
Thursday, November 1
Wednesday, October 31
Thursday, October 25
Tuesday, October 23
World Series (of cleaning)
I cleaned our oven today.
I think that this is the first time in my life that I have cleaned an oven.
I think that this is the first time in my life that I have cleaned an oven.
Monday, October 22
Back from Seattle
As for me ---- well I discovered that VH1 "classic" shows a couple hours from the 120 Minutes vault of 1980's punkrock and alternative videos ... so at 3 in the morning I was enjoying watching the old Courtney Love followed by Suicidal Tendancies and getting scared by Flock of Seagulls. Em --- well she's a plane sleeper so she did ok.
Our trip was really good. Blasto got to meet KINGSTON - his new cousin, as well as seeing Doron & Raffi in Portland and seeing his cousins in Seattle & Ali & Rhys who went out to Whidby Island for 3 days with us (poor kids had to miss school days and play on the beach instead!!)
We also got to spend a morning with Aunt Suzan and see the Salmon Ladder which was kinda quiet on the day we went but pretty cool nonetheless, plus we got to watch a sailboat get lifted up to go through the ballard Locke.
Anyway here is a link to some photos from the trip:
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| Seattle Pdx Trip 2007 |
Hiking
We went up to the Fells today with Kath (& Gabe) and Jeff (& Lila) and let the kids hike around in the falling leaves. Mikey, Lila's dog came too and it was so funny to listen to Lila yelling "Mikey Mikey" as she tried to get him to come to her (which he has the sense not to do).
These three are pretty adorable together & its really nice to watch how they are learning to interact with each other. Lila is totally the leader of the pack and ready to tell Gabe & the Monkey what to do. They are all more interested in someone else's snack & water bottle than they are in their own which makes for some fun pushing & pulling but all in all they are good at sharing for 16 - 20 month old kids. Look at how good Gabe is at sharing his leaf with lil R.

Saturday, October 20
Monday, October 8
Sentences
Okay not quite, but the little monkey is beginning to put two words together. So far he has come up with "Where Da?" when looking for me and "Bye Doggie" to the neighbors little fluffy dog.
Sunday, October 7
Watching the Marching Bands
Honk! Fest today
Here you can see Em and Monito waving their Simchat Torah flag for the marching bands... probably not the most popular sentiment.
oh well & oy vey
A shout out to Mama Kathy in SF
Let's hope our little taurus keeps on doing it for us. & Kathy - next visit lets teach him what that toilet scrubber thing is for.
Saturday, October 6
Hanging out with Lila
The lil monkey enjoys RiverSing
A few weekends ago on the Charles River at the Weeks bridge a bunch of choirs performed at Sunset - this is an annual beginning of fall thing. I think the lil guy liked it.
Monday, October 1
Ahhhhhh San Francisco
Friday, September 28
At the Appl* Store
Thursday, September 20
L'Shanah Tovah
A very happy New Year to everyone who's keeping track of these things. Of Course, my new year post is a bit tardy. We were on the road for the head of the holiday. First visiting with our friends Julia & Eli in Ocean Grove NJ (right next to Asbury Park, of Springsteen fame)
A shot of Eli at his Grandma's.

Next we took the train up to Nanuet NY (this entailed 2 changes along the way) for holidays with the family, which of course included another train ride, but this one was a bit more fun. The lil monkey learned a few new tricks from the G-Parents - he said Grandpa, and Zebra, he learned that saying "car, car, car" over & over again will get him 15 minutes on grandpa's lap honking the horn in the driveway, & he had his first trip to T*ys R *s.
We got home on Sunday Night just in time to welcome Jean & Carol to our house as they returned from Flo's wedding in Northampton. We got to spend some time wandering around Harvard & eating ice cream before sending them back west. Now we are tired from all this vacationing & its time to start preparing for fall.
A shot of Eli at his Grandma's.
Next we took the train up to Nanuet NY (this entailed 2 changes along the way) for holidays with the family, which of course included another train ride, but this one was a bit more fun. The lil monkey learned a few new tricks from the G-Parents - he said Grandpa, and Zebra, he learned that saying "car, car, car" over & over again will get him 15 minutes on grandpa's lap honking the horn in the driveway, & he had his first trip to T*ys R *s.
We got home on Sunday Night just in time to welcome Jean & Carol to our house as they returned from Flo's wedding in Northampton. We got to spend some time wandering around Harvard & eating ice cream before sending them back west. Now we are tired from all this vacationing & its time to start preparing for fall.
Monday, September 10
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