The adventures of a butch dyke in my 40's as I get knocked up, give birth, move cross country and back and discover that FTM also stands for Full Time Mom
Monday, September 10
Horsey
Friday, September 7
Monkey & Mama
We spent the Labor Day weekend in the Shire with much of the Newfie clan -- R picked up a few new words - "Truck" "Grandma" "Farah" ... he got to spend some time in the pool & got to go to the big outdoor sing-a-long in Great Barrington. We also went to a county fair where there were Sheeps & Goats to be petted and flying pigs... Okay they were diving pigs, but that's still pretty impressive.
We are still going to the parks a couple of times a day ... it can't decide if its summer or fall here - a few days were cool - you know like around 75 degrees - then today it was back to full on sticky hot.
Lil Monkey got a new Cousin
Sunday, August 26
Last Night Lobster...
CornDogs (non-meat), Fish fingers, Frozen Peas, some corn on the cob and
Mac & Cheese from a box.
Oh how the mighty have fallen.
Saturday, August 25
Sunday, August 19
Saturday, August 18
August Update
Tuesday, August 14
The Peach Farm
Tuesday, August 7
Peds Appt.
Weight 21.2 lb (US) - still a skinny minny coming in in the 10th percentile
Height/Length 31.75" - tall - in the 75th Percentile for boys
Head 47 cm around - including the unsightly bruiser referred to above.
He got shots for HIB & DTaP -which they combod into on shot --- done quickly in his lidocained thigh as he stood up screaming in my ear.
Sunday, August 5
Saturday, August 4
Sign Language
Thats my boy!!!!!!!!!!!
Friday, August 3
First Bike Ride
Monday, July 23
Whats been going on ...
He is walking like a total champ at this point and hardly crawls at all anymore. He has learned to THROW A FIT and he is working on language possibly tossing off words like: no, up, off, cheese, Rachael, Mabel, woof and the like.
He still loves Saag Paneer and has FINALLY developed a liking for Ice Cream (we were starting to worry), but he eats very little fruit.... no berries -even fresh off the vine, no melon, no peaches, no citrus... A little Apple is about it.
We spend a lot of time with the Cambridgeport Boys Brigade - Gabe, Xander, Nick, Seth (even though he has moved to JP) and Harriet when she gets over from her home in almost Somerville. We also see cuzin Farah quite often - she is crazzzy and sassy - a lot of fun to be around but a lot of energy too. We miss Lori's Boys like crazy & wish them well as they head to Birmingham.
We should be seeing Shari & Lisa & Emma this week... I am looking forward to that. Missing home & Missing Friends....
Sunday, July 22
Friday, July 6
New Post....
Anyways on to whats up with US...
Em finished Intern Year - and everyone says that things will improve in this second year - I am hoping that's going to be true. So far its been good - she has been doing a new clinic shift where she's had a couple afternoons off and gets to sleep more when she is on overnight call. (More in this case means some --- she gets a couple of hours in a 26 or 27 hour period as opposed to the NO sleep that she generally got on Labor & Delivery Call.) The good thing about this is that her post call day can be partially spent with us doing stuff & not just catching up on her sleep.
Monito is doing TONS of new things -
He started walking right after I got back from SF, and he spends each day
perfecting his technique - it is so cool to watch & he is VERY proud of
himself.He has also learned to ring the little bicycle bell on cousin Farrah's tryke
when he is riding on it (he sits & we push).Em thinks that he is talking now... I am not so sure, but she says she's
heard him use the words - "Cheese" when asking for & eating
cheese, "doggie" for Mabel - He definitley says "Woof" to mabel (& sometimes to Aunt Jenny), He has said "baby" as he touched his own chest.He Naps in his crib most days - but he's been dumping the morning nap on a
lot of days and just powering through on one shortish nap.He can make a couple of signs - he has done "milk/nurse" for awhile, but it looks a lot like waving hi - so I don't know what he wants a lot of the time, but now he has started signing "MORE" & uses it correctly - turns out he likes Ice Cream after all - he signs more, more, more - just like when he is eating Saag Paneer.
He can drink out of a grown up cup if you hold it for him, and he can also drink from a straw - He learned in SF when I was using up last years Jamba Juice Gift Card.
He is climbing up things - mainly stairs, but sadly he can't climb down. (Poor evolutionary planning I think).
Now that he can balance & stand up pretty good on his own, He is working on his DANCING - for blues music he sticks his bumm out and bends down to the rhythm, for Gaelic Folk he tends to shimmer & do a lot of hand movements... more to be discovered on this front & I'll try to get some video soon.
ME - I loved being able to get out to SF and see so many people, I only wish I could be in a couple of places at once cause I really missed Em when we were on the left coast. The travelling went pretty good, the babe was AMAZING & made it pretty easy on me. Now we are getting ready for a lot of left coasters who are coming East and going to try and squeeze in summer visits with us. I am so excited - you all know that I am missing my friends & family so much - even though I've met some really great folks out here. Speaking of that - Lori & her family have left Cambridge now & moved onto Fellowship in Birmingham Alabama ---- I went by her house to grab some stuff right after getting back from SF & it was so sad to see it all empty ... their house was my main refuge this past 6 months or so cause since Colin is a doc too she totally got the absent spouse thingy.
Okay I think thats the update for now....
Saturday, June 30
Wednesday, June 27
Tuesday, June 26
Monday, June 11
Summer Time & the living is easy
Sunday, June 10
Congrats....
Friday, June 8
Too Cute
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Thursday, June 7
Dragon Boat Festival
Festival Legend
Traditionally held on the fifth day of the fifth moon on the lunar calendar -- late May to mid June on the solar calendar (June 19th for 2007) -- the Dragon Boat Festival commemorates the life and death of the ancient patriot-poet Qu Yuan who lived from 340-278 B.C. Qu Yuan was a minister who advocated reforms in his home state of Chu. The King refused to listen to Qu Yuan's advice and instead banished him from the state of Chu. In exile, Qu Yuan wrote poetry expressing his concern for his country and people. In 278, when Qu Yuan heard that his home had been invaded, he drowned himself in the Mi Lo River.
The people of Chu rushed to the river to rescue him. Too late to save Qu Yuan, they splashed furiously and threw zung-ze, steamed rice wrapped in reed leaf, into the river as a sacrifice to his spirit and to keep the fish from Qu Yuan's body.
Since that time, some 2,000 years ago, dragon boats are raced on rivers in China and people throw zung-ze into the river to honor the memory of Qu Yuan.
Even before Qu Yuan, the fifth moon was a time of danger. With the hot and wet weather of the summer came the perils of plagues and diseases. Parents embroidered designs of tigers eating poisonous insects on children's clothing to protect them from evil spirits. In addition, children wore herb and spice filled amulets around their necks to ward off insects. Chinese people consider themselves to be the descendants of dragons and so during the fifth moon feel it is appropriate to paddle boats with dragon designs and make sacrifices of zung-ze to cajole the river dragons.
EXCERPT FROM THE MOUNTAIN SPIRIT“The man in the mountain, fragrant withsweet herb, Drinks from the rocky spring,shaded by pines and furs.You, my lord, arethinking of me, but then you hesitate.The thunder rumbles and the rain darkens;The gibbons mourn, howling all the night;The wind whistles and the trees are bare Iam thing of the young lord; I sorrow in vain.”Qu Yuan
Monday, June 4
Sunday, June 3
What do stay at home moms do
The author is Carolyn Hax (sent to me from a mom friend this morning)
When you have young kids, your typical day is:
constant attention, from getting them out of bed, fed, clean, dressed;
to keeping them out of harm's way;
to answering their coos, cries, questions;
to having two arms and carrying one kid, one set of car keys, and supplies for even the quickest trips, including the latest-to-be-declared-essential piece of molded plastic gear;
to keeping them from unshelving books at the library;
to enforcing rest times;
to staying one step ahead of them lest they get too hungry, tired or bored, any one of which produces the kind of checkout-line screaming that gets the checkout line shaking its head.
It's needing 45 minutes to do what takes others 15.
It's constant vigilance,
constant touch,
constant use of your voice, c
onstant relegation of your needs to the second tier.
It's constant scrutiny and second-guessing from family and friends, well meaning and otherwise.
It's resisting constant temptation to seek short-term relief at everyone's long-term expense.
It's doing all this while concurrently teaching virtually everything - language, manners, safety, resourcefulness, discipline, curiosity, creativity. Empathy. Everything.
It's also a choice, yes. And a joy.
But if you spent all day, every day, with this brand of joy, and then, when you got your first 10 minutes to yourself, wanted to be alone with your thoughts instead of calling a good friend, a good friend wouldn't judge you, complain about you to mutual friends, or marvel how much more productively she uses her time.
Saturday, June 2
Re: Vaccines
From Monday June 4, 07 Boston Globe ...
...Now, vaccine makers are again threatened. Lawyers will argue that either the measles-mumps-rubella (MMR) vaccine or a mercury-containing preservative (thimerosal) in vaccines or the combination of the two can cause autism. This theory has been advanced on television shows such as 60 Minutes, in popular magazines like Time and Newsweek, and on national radio programs such as Imus in the Morning. Most prominently, the mercury-causes-autism theory has been advanced by a parents advocacy group called Safe Minds -- a group now at the center of the litigation.
Certainly there is plenty of evidence to refute the notion that vaccines cause autism. Fourteen epidemiological studies have shown that the risk of autism is the same whether children received the MMR vaccine or not, and five have shown that thimerosal-containing vaccines also do not cause autism. Further, although large quantities of mercury are clearly toxic to the brain, autism isn't a consequence of mercury poisoning; large, single-source mercury exposures in Minamata Bay and Iraq have caused seizures, mental retardation, and speech delay, but not autism.
Finally, vaccine makers removed thimerosal from vaccines routinely given to young infants about six years ago; if thimerosal were a cause, the incidence of autism should have declined. Instead, the numbers have continued to increase. All of this evidence should have caused a quick dismissal of these cases. But it didn't, and now the courthas turned into a circus. The federal and civil litigation will likely take years to sort out.
Autism can be a heartbreaking disorder, often draining parents emotionally and financially. Although many promising genetic, epidemiological, and biological studies have been published during the past few years, autism remains a disorder without a known cause or cure. This has been enormously frustrating for parents.
It would be nice if there were someone or something to blame. We could blame the government and use the federal vaccine compensation program to pay for care. Or we could blame vaccine makers, and get them to pay in civil court. But if vaccine makers -- faced with large awards for a problem that wasn't their fault -- make the same decisions they did in the early 1980s, all American children will suffer, including those with autism. Then, we'll have only ourselves to blame.
Paul A. Offit, MD, is the chief of infectious diseases at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia, the co-inventor of the rotavirus vaccine currently licensed in the United States, and the author of "Vaccinated: One Man's Quest to Defeat the World's Deadliest Diseases."
Friday, June 1
One Year Check Up Today
Vital Stats:
His Head is a nice 46.5 cm - smack dab on the 50th percentile line - up from the 25th percentile at his six month visit.
His Weight is 20lb 10 1/2 oz's (We might have turned his seat around a touch too soon) - Putting him above the 10th percentile, but not in the 25th yet - the same as at his 6 month visit. He is a lean boy & I am free to feed him lots of fatty foods if I want.
Length is where he's been putting all of his energy clearly because he stretched out and measured a whopping 31" - 3 inches of growth since his nine month appt. On length he left his prior trajectory right along the 50th percentile and Jumped over the 75th percentile line -- so he's lookin' long & lean.
Then he got the shots, but he did really good & only cried for a minute or so & was babbling to me like nothing happened as we walked back to the car. We celebrated the big morning by going out to Dana park with Xander & Gabe for a quick picnic and some time in the waterpark -
the boys are very cute together - Emily (Xan's mama) took photos & I'll post one if I can get it from her. Now he is napping in the stroller & I am going to get us ready for Grandpa Phil's Big Birthday Weekend Shindig!!!!
Thursday, May 31
Wednesday, May 30
Phone Photo
I finally got the technology to grab the photos from my phone... So now I can save them & even post them here. This is a Beautiful shot taken ages ago --- probably around when we first got to Boston last summer. Its what I see EVERY TIME I open my phone. So when you call me - I see this gorgeous guy, and when I go to check the time... ditto.
Sunday, May 20
2:30 pm & Napping Now...
I've been trying on & off to get him to go to sleep since around 11:30 this morning - I finally gave up & locked him up so I could take a shower and get dressed with the idea that we'd take the dog out quickly in the rain before she had some sort of major accident. Of Course, as soon as I got out of the shower and half dressed he fell asleep. So Mabel got to visit the backyard and I am trying to creep around the house and pick things up but VERY quietly.
Please Goddess of sleep... let him stay napping for awhile.
Friday, May 18
Tuesday, May 15
Birthday Weekend in the Berkeshires
Here is a little collage commemorating our Birthday/Mom's Day weekend in the Shire with the Grandparents & DGina. As you can see the lil monkey got his first taste of Ice Scream thanks to the yummy Ice Cream cake that his grandma & grandpa got for him. At first he was a little shocked by the taste of something so cold, but then he started chomping on the cone peices and I think he developed a taste for the sweets - we poured a little fudge sauce into him as well and he seemed to enjoy that also. So now we have to discuss how much & how often we will give him this kinda super treat --- Em and I are both planning on doing an ice cream taste test of the Northeast as the weather continues to heat up - but we're not sure if the monkey is included in that or not... Only time will tell.The best part of the weekend is probably watching how the cousins are with each other now -- & to get to watch them be excited to be in the same house in the morning. F. is so sweet to the little guy it kills me - her new thing is to run grab his sippy cup and bring it over to him - so concerned that he stays well hydrated!!!
The weather was wonderfull and I love being out of the city & up in the woods, even if I don't leave the house. Plus - I got to read about 65 pages of a book!!!!! Now its back to real life - Em's at work, I am downloading photo's, doing laundry and thinking of doing the dishes, R is taking a nap. Gotta love this life.
On to YEAR TWO.
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Monday, May 14
Words
Saturday, May 12
Happy Birthday Robby
Wednesday, May 9
Pooped
Tuesday, May 8
WOW --- reminiscing... birth story included
Anyways I am up at midnight on May 7th/8th having just made a bunch of cupcakes and then turned the leftover batter into a mixed chocolate yellow cake. Em & the lil' monkey are both sleeping soundly and have been since around 10:30. So a year ago tonight I was at St. Lukes Hospital getting the magic cervadil along with IV antibiotics because we hadn't gotten back my Strep test since it had only just been done. Labor was helped along with the magic needles of Joey Wyman that she placed around 9pm or so that night. Em went home around midnight I guess and I tried to sleep on the funky little hospital bed.
Woke up at 3 am with cramps... tired & confused it took me awhile to figure out that these were probably contractions - hmm regular cramps coming in rhythmic patterns a few minutes apart... what's going on here? I waited as long as I could before I called Em - it was 4:30 or 5. It's funny when you are induced after you have been prepping for going into labor at home - all the things I thought I was supposed to do were around figuring out when we should contact the midwives and go into the hospital & I realized I had no idea what I was supposed to do since I was already in the hospital - at a loss I looked at the clock and timed my contractions anyway - then I put on my headphones and danced around the room a little bit.
I took a shower around 7 and then got to move to my L&D room from my little holding room - the biggest difference was the size & it has its own bathroom. We put in another cervadil in the morning and had a meeting with Cynthia the midwife and Amy, our Doula. I remember we all had a meeting but I don't remember what anyone said, and I remember taking another shower around 11 am and by this time I totally wanted DRUGS - Amy and Em got ahold of Joey again & she came back and made everything better with those accupuncture needles and some tea ---
I don't know how or why I got it back together but I did & from then on I was able to go with the labor as it happened.
Deb arrived from Seattle some time in the early afternoon - I still had needles in when she got there. Her presence was the most amazing gift & she had the perfect effect on me - helping me stay calm and focused & feel safe. For the next bunch of hours we all just hung out & labor happened - I felt safe & taken care of with Em, Amy, Deb, the midwife & the AMAZING nurses from St. Lukes. Finally they checked me out at some point & said I was 7 cm dilated (YEAH) and we set up the water tub for me to do the last part of labor in. We had a glitch before getting me in the tub though cause we couldn't get a good reading on lil Blastos' heart rate on the monitors ... it seemed like we were trying for hours and I was about ready to jump out the window --- but FINALLY they said I could get into the water.
Water GOOD --- going from 7 to 10 cm's not so good, but better when done in water.
I felt his head - oh my god !!!! His head was right there, where I could feel him with my fingers - oh my god... this kid is going to get born. So we climbed out of the tub, and Em held me & Cynthia climbed underneath me and we pushed like 4 times (I think I nearly knocked Em over - except Amy was behind her holding her up) and he was born. There was cord EVERYWHERE and he was kinda greyish but then they took him over for a quick blast of oxygen and he scored a PERFECT 10 on his second apgar score*
(*Anesthesiologist Virginia Apgar, M.D. (1909-1974) was inducted on October 14, 1995 into the NationaI Women's Hall of Fame in Seneca Falls, New York. Dr. Apgar was honored with a U.S. postal stamp for the development of the Apgar Score, which evaluates the transition of newborn babies to extrauterine life. Dr. Apgar is the only anesthesiologist and the third woman physician to be honored with a U.S. stamp)
Then we were cuddling him & feeding him and marvelling at how wonderfully brilliant and gorgeous he is & we haven't stopped yet.
We miss & love you all ----
Happy Birthday Baby Boy - I can't believe what a big guy you are
Mama-Daddie R
Sunday, May 6
April 2007
March 2007
January 2007
Dec 2006 Seven Months
Saturday, May 5
Almost Walking...
Friday, May 4
Six Months to Seven
Months Five & Six - October & Nov 2006

Before winter started we got to make our first trip back to SF, for Aimee & Tam's wedding, and we had a nice Nov. weekend in the shire with the Grandparents Phancy, as well as a fun evening trick or treating at the Pleasant St Park with Dan, Gina and all the neighbors. R. also went to Harvard and earned himself a young scientist bib!!!
Month Four Collage
Thursday, May 3
Month Two of Monito
These are our first days on the farther coast, still not much hair but working on the facial expressions.
Blasto's First Month
Okay so I am shameless on the trip down memory lane....I just can't believe that our big guy was actually such a lil bit just one year ago - I also can't remember most of last May - thanks to the craziness of birth, graduation, packing & moving & all the non-stop love we got from friends, family & neighbors.


























